Having a doula at your birth means you want to receive continuous support. In addition to that continuous support you are interested in massage for the body and the encouragement one gives as a doula during your laboring. Support and continuous encouragement throughout the labor process is extensive and Exhausting to both mom, father or partner too. I want all parties who are interested and have the agreement of the mom to participate.   The time spent with the birthing mother one cannot in so few words explain the concept until after you have gone through the experience.  It is to say without questionthe most awesome and life changing experience with the right partner and doula all working together to achieve your best and most gratifying experience for your birth.  

1. The first step in achieving the relationship you want to create with “your” doula is meet prior to the birth and work out your own personal birth plan together.

 

1. The next step till you go into “active” labor is to stay in touch on a regular basis so your doula can not only access your needs but establish your body awareness and her role as your doula.

  Your participation and communication defines your doula’s role during labor and birth, while your awaiting for the labor to begin.   Most moms do not care how many tricks you know to comfort them during the labor process most only want to know that you are there and your attendance at the birth in its ‘self vanishes most anxiety in the mom and dad (partner).

1. In order to have a positive birth experience, most women need continuous support.  The resident and nurses go in and out of your room attending other births and filling out the necessary paperwork.  Your doula is there……attending to your needs.

 

1. If there is a shift change then there is a personnel change most likely just when you were becoming comfortable with that nurse…..then she has to leave and another personnel comes in to relieve heryour doula is thereattending to your needs.

 

1. Some OB nurses handle multiple case in one day or evening shift, and a midwife too may be able to offer more support but they too have clinical duties to which they must attend,

  Your doula is there and her purpose and focus is you.   Your doula does not replace the father or partner nor are they side lined during your labor.   The father is if willing as much a part of the birth process as he wants to be.   Most father’s have a birthing experience that is life changing as much for them as the mom has and together that bond is formed at the moment of birth to be shared with your child and family.   The forces of labor are strong and the amount of work involved surprises the best intentions in most fathers.   The bottom line should be do you, your partner and doula all like each other?   Will this person be there when I need her?   Is there a commitment not withstanding an emergency that I know that my doula will be at the hospital and meet my needs? To this I say yes I will be there within the hour or less when you call.

Please call my references:   Kristin Diaz Heuisler  birth mom Home phone: 410-628-0832 chuckandkristen@verizon.net  
holly hosler@hotmail.com  Holly Hosler birth mom 410-601-8678  
SOberstien@aol.comLa Chaim Doula Program Mentor and teacher Faige Oberstien 410-358-0431 or 410-469-0029  Do not call on the Sabbath.
 Miriam Sperling La Chaim Doula Program Mentor and teacher 410-591-1836 or 410-578-8889
Do not call on the Sabbath.  
Thanking you in advance for the opportunity to work together during your special day and birh.